From poor-quality made in China to good-quality made in China, we all grew up. But if I tell you that now you’ll also find humans – made in China version, would you believe it? Maybe or maybe not. But one thing is clearer than it will ever be, they definitely are not good quality.
A few days back, social media had been the centre of controversy with popular trends of gender parties, highlighting men appearing to be women, which has perhaps led women to think as to why they are behind in this race. Thus, the latest Pakistani drama nowadays is all the craze. While some seem to get blown away by the oh-so-good acting, others can’t stop but rave about the courageous role that has been played. Appreciative comments, appraising posts, high TRPs and millions of views, our youth seems to go all out and about, loving every single bit of it but failing to understand the bigger picture. How so? Let’s discuss! But before that, let’s have a Q/A session!
Your internet connection gets down. Will you call the service provider and ask? No! You simply take your scissors and cut the wire, no connection, no distortion – great! Your world’s best friend forgets to bring a present at your birthday; you simply let it go and enjoy the party with him? Surely not! You cut off from him and bid your friendship a goodbye, no gift, no friend – priorities! You feel lazy and don’t want to get up early for your midterm; you try to gather motivation and head to university? No! Of course not. You call your management and tell them to drop you out of the institute, no uni, no exams – life sorted! Let’s take it to a level a bit higher. Your life is miserable, and you don’t seem to have a way out; you try not to lose hope and keep struggling, waiting for the silver lining? No! You simply jump off a building and commit suicide! No life, no miseries – how wise! Now, you must be wondering why these questions. Well, hold on; this is the last and the ‘main’ one! You think life is tough for a female in society; you try to remain determined, excelling your skills, fighting hard, and praying harder, eventually making it through? No! Are you kidding me? Why on earth would I bother to do that? I’ll simply go out there and “become” a man! No more women, no more worries!
Cutting wires, toxic relationships, failed careers, suicide attempts and losing my identity? What? Why? How? Well, this is not what we are trying to portray, but sadly our sugar-coated “MEDIA” is! With ever-famous depictions of hatred, jealousy, intolerance, extra-marital affairs and whatnot, now the Pakistani media is off to new heights. Pitying the existence of women and reflecting how they are a stroke of bad luck for their families, here they are again glamorising male supremacy!
Narrated by Ibn’ Abbas: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) cursed the women who imitate men and the men who imitate women.” [Tirmidhi – 2784]
What kind of notion is being put forward? What kind of impact will it have on the minds of young girls who will be forced to think that there is nothing in it for them in being a woman? This debate is not even logical because if the only solution to all your problems – discrimination, domestic violence, abuse, assaults, low career opportunities, etc. were to “become” a man, then there would not have been a single woman left on this planet till now. After all, she would have happily “become” a man. And hilariously, if it happens to be a case one day, where will all those feminists with their “women rights” slogans and cheers go?
Allah (SWT) mentions in the Quran, “Anyone who works righteousness, male or female, while believing, we will surely grant them a happy life in this world, and we will surely pay them their full recompense (on the Day of Judgement) for their righteous works” [Quran 16:97].
Islam has defined specific gender roles for males and females, which are for their own good. The fact that Allah (SWT) created all human beings should alone testify that no one can ever understand anybody as perfectly as his Creator. And there lies a divine hikmah (wisdom) behind the distribution of these roles because, at the end of the day, men and women are biologically different. “And the male is not like the female “. [Quran 3:36]. Men are physically and emotionally more stronger than women, thus are bound to earn bread and butter for the family. “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women” [Quran 4:3]
On the other hand, women have the capability men can never ever have, i.e. reproduction. The level of care and nurture which women can showcase, men can never reach to that level. Women are the nation builders of tomorrow who can raise leaders of change. Islam has already given all the rights – education, business, vote, inheritance, etc.- to women, so why become a man to acquire those rights? And if one says that it is easy to get your rights as a man, and if that were really the case, then there would have never been a single man left unhappy on this land.
When a Muslim girl is born, she becomes a reason for her father to enter paradise. When she grows up and marries a man, she completes half of his religion. When she becomes a mother, paradise comes under her feet. This is the supreme status of our women in Islam. So, why change ourselves when we already are the best? We all should ponder upon it and next time, choose our watch-list wisely!